Language was the equivalent of my gateway drug into the personal development space about 10 years ago. I was already into fitness and health, and was working as a personal live in chef for the years prior. When I got a glimpse of the "non-physical" modalities like thought, language, and consciousness, I was hooked.
In a soon to be released episode of my interview series, I sat down with Mark England who was on the show back on episode 65 talking about the core principles of Procabulary and upgrading our language. In there we dive deeper into language and go Beyond Surface Language.
This really got me thinking of what I did in the beginning to start conditioning new language patterns and modes of perception.
If you're just getting started in the language game or if you could use a little focus adjustment, then see if you can only state the affirmative for an entire day.
While it sounds quite simple, I think you might find this a little more challenging than meets the eye.
I give a few examples in today's show, so check it out and when after you put this into practice, shoot me a message over on Instagram @jeffagostinelli or on Facebook and let me know how it was.
Being able to bounce back from the inevitable hard times in life is an essential skill. The recovery period between something that happens and how we come through on the other side is known as resilience.
We often see resilience as a hard skill... something that we gain when we go through experience that toughens us up. I know I typically thought of it this way too, making "thick skinned" and resilient synonymous. My guest today has a different perspective on resilience.
Sarah talks about resilience as having a softer quality and the result of how we integrate the most horrific, embarrassing, shame filled, disappointing, experiences... integrating those into our story in a way that strengthens us but doesn't make us hard.
As a certified Life Coach, Spiritual Director and Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Sarah empowers people to rebound and recover from the damaging effects of stress, trauma and chronic illness/disease. Her clients stop the stress cycle, double their energy and break their limiting patterns and habits. Becoming resilient – emotionally, mentally and physically – they live free from anxiety, stop doubting themselves, and find courage to take action on their dreams, regardless the difficulty and challenge they’ve endured. Sarah believes that obstacles and failures are part of the path to reach our fullest potential. Therefore, we must master how to become resilient instead of shrinking back from pain or resistance.
Today we are going to unpack what resilience is and how it can actually have more of a soft, integrated quality to it. We also going to get into how shame and resilience are related.
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If you guys are yet to gather this from the show so far, I’m completely obsessed with esoteric teachings, spiritual practices, and certain concepts like Penney Peirce and I talked about in the last episode… a holographic reality.
I also love science, research, and data driven findings that reveal the “scientific proof” of what these ancient esoteric teachings knew in a different way.
Where all this comes together, literally… is integration. Bringing together all these different aspects of utilizing the power of the mind, understanding the subconscious, spiritual practices, daily rituals, and the use of our will through direct action.
I see it as a buffet where we can look at our little bag of tricks and select the best tool for the job.
In the second half of 2017 I had a strong sense to move into story and to hit the pause button on the left brain linear data driven side of things and dive deeper into spirituality, story, and creativity.
In 2016 I decided to dive into A Course In Miracles and apply the teachings daily for the whole year. Contemplating, focusing on and acting from some of the concepts in there produced some amazing shift and what I can obviously refer to here as miracles.
Late last year (2017) I was in a similar place emotionally, mentally, and spiritually where I was yearning for answers… but not in the usual research and record way that I have became accustomed to.
I ended up stumbling upon The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo and decided that this year I would go through the book each day and do the practice.
Today I want to share with you a passage from The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo. In here he talks about an aging Hindu master who grew tired of his apprentice complaining.
Penney Peirce is a respected clairvoyant empath, visionary, author, and popular lecturer and trainer. She is one of the early pioneers in the intuition development movement, specializing in intuition development, inner energy dynamics, expanded perception, transformation, and dream work. She has worked throughout the US, Europe, Japan, South America, and South Africa since 1977, coaching business and government leaders, psychologists, scientists, celebrities, and those on a spiritual path about the hidden dynamics of what makes for true success.
She is the author of ten books, including Transparency: Seeing Through to Our Expanded Human Capacity, Leap of Perception: The Transforming Power of Your Attention, Frequency: The Power of Personal Vibration, and The Intuitive Way: The Definitive Guide to Increasing Your Awareness.
There are these stages of understanding what transformation is doing and how our consciousness is changing and how its affecting the way our life works… and this process of transformation is what fascinates Penney and what she unpacks in the 4 books previously mentioned.
Transparency is what she describes as the last phase that she has noticed so far.
While this is a word you may relate to information, in her book, Penney outlines different levels or types of transparency, specifically horizontal and vertical transparency. She also speaks to the larger shift from the information age to the intuition age.
There is so much in this book and it’s definetley worth a read. For me Transparency was a great bridge between those hard to grasp “spiritual” concepts and reality. It has also exercises in each section to put the concepts and ideas to work right away.
Today we are going to unpack Transparency and dive into what transformation is.
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Something that has been making it's way into my awareness A LOT lately is the difference between familiarity and comfort.
The language we use to describe thoughts and emotions is massively powerful and can create a mental and emotional state of stop or go.
In the personal development space there is a lot of talk about the comfort zone and how we need to step out of our comfort zone where all the magic happen. I had Andy Molinsky on the show back at episode 85 to talk about his book Reach, which is a very well written book on how to strategically step outside your comfort zone. The strategies he outlines are fantastic and very useful, and what I dive into today is how our comfort zone is anything but comfortable. Let's call it a bit of a meta concept if you will.
The objective of getting out of your comfort zone is to achieve your goals, create change, and experience results that you want.
Clearly we have to take new actions to experience a different result, but the analogy of the comfort zone didn't do it for me. It was almost as if I was just trading one frazzled state for another. When I thought about this deeper, it made more sense... it doesn't seem like a worth while trade.
After being with it for a little while I started to see the distinction more clearly. What I was calling my comfort zone wasn't comfortable at all. It was actually creating a lot of collateral damage and unnecessary pain. It wasn't that it was comfortable, it was just familiar.
One of the biggest distinctions that helped me "get out of my comfort zone" was beginning to approach it with curiosity and through the lens of exploring the unfamiliar.
After you tune in to today's show, come over to the show notes and let me know what you think in the comments below.
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The things that we've ashamed of or have strong feelings about, whether it's addiction or something that may have happened to us, aren't dark in and of themselves. As Shakespeare once said... "Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so."
Anna David is the New York Times-bestselling author of two novels and four non-fiction books about addiction, recovery and relationships. She’s been published in The New York Times, Time, The LA Times, Vanity Fair, Playboy, Vice and Women’s Health, among many others, written about in numerous publications including Forbes, Martha Stewart Living, Entrepreneur, Allure and Women’s Health and has appeared repeatedly on The Today Show, Hannity, Attack of the Show, Dr. Drew, Red Eye, The Talk and numerous other programs on Fox News, NBC, CBS, MTV, VH1 and E.
She created and hosts the Recover Girl podcast and the recovery storytelling show Hammer(ed) Time and speaks at colleges across the country about relationships, addiction and recovery. Through her company, Light Hustler, she helps creatives share their dark to find their light—through coaching, writing, workshops and more.
Today we're going to dive into what Light Hustler is all about and find out if you are ready to share your story.
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In this episode, I share some of these insights, lessons learned and guiding principles with you in hope that it will give you context and meaning in the situations or challenges you find yourself in and how to look at 2018 through a new lens.
Here’s a summary, and you can see the full outline at http://jeffa.co/116
These two overarching principles served as an anchor that locked the lessons in place.
#1 - Learn your lesson quickly and move on
#2 - Finding your center - your home frequency
Here are my top 5 Lessons from 2017
#1 - The most powerful thing you can do is put yourself around people who are committed to change, knowing themselves more, and creating deeper meaning in their life..
#2 - If you don’t focus on it, it ain’t gonna change.
#3 - Find out what works for you and honor YOUR process.
#4 - Getting it out there is more important than getting it perfect.
#5 - The light casts a shadow, don’t be afraid of it.
Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. from Stanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and the new Conscious Loving Ever After, the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks.
He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. Most recently, he has launched a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir Errol Hyde. Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others.
As we speak, Gay is actually working on the sequel for The Big Leap which will be out toward the end of 2018.
Today we are going to unpack the key aspects of The Big Leap and how we can create a better awareness for those times where we are upper limiting ourselves.
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A few episodes back I went into 3 Simple Things to Manage Overwhelm where I talked about some strategies I use to get past overwhelm by creating the space to get things done personally and professionally. In there I went into blocking time, eliminating distractions by putting your phone on airplane, and letting others know in your immediate environment what you need to have the type of environment you need for the task at hand.
At the root this is cultivating undivided attention and funneling your focus and pretty much everything you've got into what requires it in the moment
The amount of attention you can commit and hold by your mental and emotional focus can make all the difference in creating something with meaning and making memories with the people you love.
As you're heading into the new year, you can use this practice to really dive into the things at the top of your list and start the year strong.
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The beauty industry, for men and women, has had a strong focus on the veneer. It's largely about acquiring and applying beauty as apposed to radiating beauty from the inside out.
There's no better example that I know of personally who radiates health and well-being as much as Nadine Artemis and when it comes to cream of the crop pure products Nadine has curated and formulate just that.
Nadine Artemis is the creator of Living Libations, an exquisite line of serums, elixirs, and essentials oils for those seeking the purest of the pure botanical health and beauty products on the planet. Living Libations natural beauty line that’s won over devoted fans such as singer Alanis Morissette and actresses Carrie-Anne Moss, Shailene Woodley and Mandy Moore.
She is the author of Renegade Beauty: Reveal and Revive Your Natural Radiance and Holistic Dental Care: The Complete Guide to Healthy Teeth and Gums, a frequent commentator on health and beauty for media outlets, and her products have received rave reviews in the New York Times, the National Post, and the Hollywood Reporter.
Described by Alanis Morissette as “a true-sense visionary,” Nadine has formulated a stunning collection of rare and special botanical compounds. Her healing creations, along with her concept of Renegade Beauty, encourages effortlessness and inspires people to rethink conventional notions of beauty and wellness.
Today we'll dive into some common beauty and self-care practices you can upgrade right away and dig into Nadine's new book, Renegade Beauty.
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Around the holidays, we typically spend time with our friends and families.
Something that started to happen for me when I was upgrading my nutrition and digging into personal development was that going back home felt awkward. Not only that, but I would get judgemental and try to impose my newly found discoveries on my family and friends.
It can even feel like there is a mismatch going on. These people may remember you as a different person with different views and beliefs. This is super common in the personal development and transformational space.
Today I'm gonna unpack what this looks like and how to navigate these situations. It's been a solid 10+ years since I've started down the path of lifestyle and consciousness shifts, so I feel fairly competent in these situations and confidently expressing myself without getting pulled into anyone's B.S.
So naturally, I thought this would be useful for you to navigate the holiday festivities.
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Today I invited Dorie Clark to come back on the show to talk about her new book, Entrepreneurial You: Monetize Your Expertise, Create Multiple Income Streams, and Thrive. Dorie was on the show back at episode 037 (The Art of Reinvention and Standing Out in A Crowded Marketplace) where we dug into her book Stand Out and really got deep into how to coach your inner critic.
Dorie Clark is an adjunct professor at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business and the author of Entrepreneurial You, Reinventing You and Stand Out, which was named the #1 Leadership Book of 2015 by Inc. magazine. A former presidential campaign spokeswoman, the New York Times described her as an “expert at self-reinvention and helping others make changes in their lives.”
A frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, she consults and speaks for clients including Google, Microsoft, and the World Bank. She is also a producer of a multiple Grammy-award-winning jazz album.
In Entrepreneurial You, Dorie outlines a blueprint for professional independence and creating what she calls a portfolio career.
There are countless people who are really good, heck... even GREAT at what they do, but are yet to actually turn that into a lucrative income. Something I've had to grow up and realize and what Dorie so perfectly states is how:
"Learning to make money from your expertise is a different skill set from what’s needed to become excellent at your work or well known in your field."
We are going to unpack Dorie's book Entrepreneurial You and start to chip away at what the income path for independent professionals actually looks like.
In the year Dorie spent writing Entrepreneurial You her income grew by more than $200,000 as a direct result of using the techniques in this book.
Everyone is at a different place in their professional journey. So this isn't to say you'll see those EXACT results, and there's power in seeing what's possible.
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In a society where we place a high value on the intellect, it can be a tough to drop into how we really feel about making choices in our life.
I've personally found it extremely valuable to be able to tap into a deeper intelligence to navigate life's choices and be able to draw upon the feeling of a decision.
In a recent coaching session with a client we came up with a great analogy that helped her clear the mental clutter and drop into a deeper more resourceful place to make the choice she was up against.
In today's episode I'll unpack what that looks like and how to move from a more frenetic whack-a-mole state to a place of yummy tummy. I know that sounds a little strange, but you'll hear all about it in today's show.
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Tim Larkin is a former military intelligence officer with a 25 year career where he has trained people in 52 countries in how to deal with imminent violence. Over 10,000 clients are trained in his Target Focus Training (TFT) from Military Special Operations Units, Special Law Enforcement Teams, Celebrities and high profile business leaders on how to use physics and physiology to injure any human(s) trying to attack them. TFT is the original Reality Based Fighting System.
His numerous magazine covers and articles in the Martial Arts and self-defense industry are as controversial as his “pro-victim advocate” position on self-protection. He is a highly sought after speaker as well as the media’s “go to guy” on Self Defense and Victim’s rights.
Today we'll unpack Tim's new book, When Violence Is the Answer: Learning How to Do What It Takes When Your Life Is at Stake, and get to know the ins and outs of this topic that most people don't want to think about.
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Something that a lot of us men are missing out on is real authentic connection with other men. Like a lot of things that somehow find their way into my life, I didn't know it was something I needed until it found me.
My friend Billy introduced me to the work of Dr. Robert Glover and his book, No More Mr. Nice Guy. After diving into his work and having him on the show, I started attending a men's group with my friend Billy and about 8-10 other guys every other week.
One of the exercises we've done in the group is sharing a story, something we did, or something that happened to us that we haven't shared, or that we are ashamed of. I really underestimated the power of such a simple exercise.
In today's episode, I'll unpack what I'm starting to understand about shame and some things that are unfolding as a result of entering the darkness to find the light.
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Growing up an Irish boy in East London, Steve Sims was the son of a brick mason. This laid the foundation, yes... pun intended..., for his insane work ethic. Steve paints this amazingly vivid picture in his new book Bluefishing: The Art of Making Things Happen, where he saw his dad, uncles, and cousins. His entire family tree down the line of ladders. In that moment he realized that he would eventually be that next one on the ladder for the rest of his life. That night, he quit.
The second he was clear there was a different way to think, he took action.
Ever since Steve has been pulling off the unimaginable. He's been able to make his clients' wildest dreams come true, from a wedding at the Vatican, to being serenaded by Andrea Bocelli, to powerful business introductions to moguls like Elon Musk.
Steve Sims is is the visionary founder of Bluefish: the world’s first luxury concierge company that delivers the highest level of personalized travel, transportation, and cutting-edge entertainment services to corporate executives, celebrities, professional athletes, and other discerning individuals interested in living life to its fullest. He has been invited to speak to MBA students at Harvard (twice), has spoken at the Pentagon, and has been featured in major media all around the world: From The Sunday Times and China Post, to The Wall Street Journal.
Today we'll dive into how Steve pulls the strings and the art of Bluefishing.
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Any time we try to change something in our life, we find out how we REALLY handle change. We all have a very predictable way that we respond emotionally to the uncertainty that inevitably arises when we go about creating change. This emotional response is woven into the fabric of our current circumstance and when we can understand what that response looks like and make peace with the present, we can start to cultivate the emotions of our end goal and maintain the emotional terrain necessary for change.
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Even after achieving financial success he felt something deeper calling. Using what he learned in that external journey, Nate applied his lessons of higher accountability and responsibility to developing communities and sharing his gifts with those around him.
Nate Lind, the youngest of six kids, is an entrepreneur, explorer and investor. He is the founder of Legendary Man an 8-figure e-commerce company, and one of the most popular men’s grooming and lifestyle brands in the world.
His first taste of financial success came in his early twenties when he became proficient in the art of buying and flipping houses. When he saw the impending housing crash coming in 2007, he transitioned from flipper to Fortune 100 consultant, with projects at the world’s largest financial institutions like Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac. By 2011 he was recruited to Bank of America as a Vice President.
Though he’d tasted wealth, married, started a family, he found a deep sense of emptiness in his own purpose outside of family. As he began looking for opportunities to fill that emptiness he discovered men’s grooming products such as beard oil and a unique brotherhood like no other.
Nate introduced his first proprietary beard oil, product and watched every aspect of his life start to improve. Nate’s most recent project is a culmination of his community building, events and e-commerce experience – the launch of Legendary Man. Legendary Man inspires men to discover their inner hero and to create community through adventure.
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There are countless ways to manage overwhelm, and I've found these three things consistently over time put everything else in place.
A funny thing that happens when we are overwhelmed, especially when it's something that we don't necessarily want to deal with, is that we'll procrastinate. The number one way this shows up is increasing distractions.
Try out these 3 simple things and let me know how it goes.
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As the professional landscape continues to change, now more than ever, it's becoming increasingly important to understand your core gifts and what makes you uniquely YOU.
Steve Olsher is known as the world’s foremost reinvention expert. Famous for helping individuals and corporations become exceptionally clear on their WHAT—that is, the ONE thing they were created to do—his practical, no-holds-barred approach to life and business propels his clients and presentation attendees toward achieving massive profitability while cultivating lives of purpose, conviction and contribution. He is the New York Times bestselling author of What Is Your What? Discover The ONE Amazing Thing You Were Born To Do, international keynote speaker, Chairman & Co-Founder of Liquor.com, and in-demand media guest who has appeared on CNN, Fox Business and other national outlets.
Today we dive into Steve's book What is Your What? and how to find out what you were born to do.
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When I got very clear on how I wanted to feel and acting and creating from that place, things got a lot more fulfilling.
Now, please hear me on this one. I'm definitely not saying I've got this perfect, that's why it's called a practice :) BUT when I can continually nudge myself in the direction of cultivating a heightened emotional state and bringing awareness to how I actually feel, shit gets a lot easier.
If you're yet to hear episode 100 where I review some of the major lessons learned from the first 100 episodes with my buddy Ian Ryan, be sure to check that out. In addition to my major lessons learned, I also talked about what I would have done differently and how I would have started these solo rounds a lot sooner. BUT... better late than never right :)
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What does it mean to seek better than the norm, to truly live an extraordinary life? Our life experiences and the meaning we attach to them create who we are and shape our reality. Bonnie opens this beautifully by saying "what you believe is what you perceive." On our journey to becoming whole, addressing our deeply held beliefs about who we are is the springboard for true healing and creating the life you envision.
Bonnie Kelly teaches people how to de-weed their minds of underlying Negative Core Beliefs and cultivate a beautiful garden of emotional health and balance. As an author, personal development and emotional intelligence expert, motivational speaker and founder of Bonnie Kelly & Associates and MindFu Academy™, Bonnie has dedicated her life to helping others stop the cycle of self-sabotage. From her experiences as an abused child to her life on the streets as a teen to being in and out of jail and rehab, she has experienced life’s lowest points firsthand. When she hit rock bottom, she became determined to change her life for the better. Now, she is supporting individuals, groups and businesses in understanding what it means to operate from a place of emotional clarity and wellness.
Corporate groups she has worked with include Genetech, Union Pacific, California Nurses Association, Solano County Probation Department, Benicia USD, Keller Williams and Brandman University. At the heart of Bonnie’s work is her year long Emotional Resilience Training program, which helps people end patterns of unconscious self-sabotage and transform their lives for the better. Her new book is entitled, “True to Your Core: Uncovering the Subconscious Beliefs Wreaking Havoc in Your Life.”
Today we dive into Bonnie's book, True to Your Core and unpack what it means to create an extraordinary life.
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What a ride! After 100 episodes of the show I wanted to jump on and do something a little different. There have been a lot of lessons learned, things I would have done differently, and what the show is going to look like moving forward.
Today I'm joined by my good friend and host of The Fearless and Healthy Podcast, Ian Ryan, where he turns the tables and interviews me on my biggest lessons and insights from the first 100 episodes.
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Every lineage has a different name for the part of yourself that can wreak havoc in your life. Christianity has the Devil and Demons, Vedic traditions have the concept of Maya, and my guest today believes it's time for a new definition for the reactive attached mind. In his new book, Sh#t Your Ego Says, James McCrae takes us on our journey through the pivotal times in his life where he overcame being his own worst enemy.
Dubbed by The Huffington Post as “…the Eckhart Tolle of the Internet Generation,” James McCrae is the author of Sh#t Your Ego Says and an award-winning strategist and writer at the intersection of creativity and mindfulness. He works with people and organizations around the world to unlock creative potential and turn imagination into results. An avid supporter of basketball, burritos, and yoga, James lives in New York City.
Today we are going to dive into James book Sh#t Your Ego Says: Strategies to Overthrow Your Ego and Become the Hero of Your Story.
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After failing public school and being expelled from several continuation schools, MC YOGI has a life changing experience when he was introduced to yoga, which he describes as “a coming home experience.” His story is filled with so many instances of grace, hope, and inspiration. It shows that no matter what your life is like right now, you always have the power to find your true path AND experience grace along the way.
MC YOGI is a world-renowned yoga teacher and musician. He has performed and taught yoga everywhere, from head-lining festivals and nightclubs to performing in the Forbidden City in China and even at the White House. When not on the road, MC YOGI and his wife Amanda teach at their home studio, Point Reyes Yoga, in Northern California.
Today, we dive into his first book SPIRITUAL GRAFFITI: Finding My True Path, a memoir that recounts his journey from gangs to grace.
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